Today you should read: Numbers 30
Today’s passage could certainly be seen as chauvinistic or old time-y for us today but I want us to see the underlying principle here:
God has an order to the family structure
God has made the man of the home to lead his home and speak for his family. Now, before we go any further, let’s be clear. Women are not inferior or incompetent. The truth is this; I don’t really know why God calls men to lead instead of women or whoever wants to. This is what I do know, God HAS called men to lead, and we all know that, as pastor Tim says often, “things always work better when you do them God’s way.”
God’s structure for family is not an archaic ideal that we just toss out due to societal progression. This design is created so that a beautiful picture of mutual submission to one another is presented in the home. You see, the idea of submission by a wife and kids to the father of the home is not about tyranny or a dictatorship. It is, I believe, about at least three examples:
- Jesus relating to the Father. God is a triune God, three in one. We see Jesus give us several pictures of how He willingly submits to the Father (John 6:38; 14:28; and 5:19). He does not submit begrudgingly but joyfully and fully. He was always equal with the Father but, according to Philippians 2:6, did not count that as important. He followed the Father’s will perfectly and when we submit to one another we are living as Jesus did.
- Fulfilling our God-given roles in creation. God gave man and woman specific roles at creation, before the fall. These roles are not results of or done away with by the fall. They stand now and until the end of time. Most men are called to be husbands (Gen.2:23), fathers (Gen.1:28) and spiritual leaders (Eph.5:22-3). Likewise, most women are called to be wives (Gen.2:23), moms (Gen. 1:28) and keepers of the home (Prov.31:10-31). This doesn’t mean that you can only do these things (i.e. women can work; see Proverbs 31), however, these are the primary tasks to which we are called. And, when you think about it, for the most part, men and women are gifted and created with the right personalities and capacities to do the things assigned in scripture for their gender.
- Jesus relating to the church. Ephesians 5:21-33 shows us how a marriage relationship is a picture of how Jesus and the Church relate to one another. Just as the Church submits to Jesus’ leadership and direction, so should a wife to her husband. Likewise, just as Jesus sacrificed everything and went through agony to save and secure the church, husbands should be ready and willing to give up anything and everything to protect and serve their wives. When these two things are working together in perfect harmony it creates a vibrant and warm home full of love and grace and it shows the world a love they can’t help, but ask about.
Posted by: Robbie Byrd