Today you should read: Colossians 3:18-25
Let’s face it we are all a mess so it is no surprise that our families are messy too. When you put two or more sinful people under one roof you will at the very least get an adventure. Just think about some of the best comedies over the past decade and most of them revolve around family. One of my personal favorites is “Everybody loves Raymond.” The interactions between the family members are hilarious but that show is a good insight on the pulse of our society’s view of roles in the family. The husband (Ray) is aloof and acts like a big kid. The wife (Deborah) is dominate and plays the parent to kids and husband. The kids run wild except for a few moments with mom and dad decide to teach a lesson. In-laws over step their bounds and but in too much. Everyone is trying to figure out how to get their way from the other members of the family. Although it makes for good TV, families that function this way find themselves in chaos.
Our passage today calls for a different type of structure for the home. God’s structure for the family is controversial and counterintuitive to the social norms of today.
• Wives submit to your husbands
• Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them
• Children obey your parents
• Fathers do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged
• Slaves obey your masters (Probably does not apply)
• Work heartily
When we look at each of these roles in this passage I notice two very distinctive things that we are being called to. First, all of these commands are to be done “as to the Lord.” We are not loving one another or submitting to one another out of a personal gain but out of worship to our God. He is the one who created us and his goal is that we would worship him. When we follow the commands of our passage today we are demonstrating our love for God. Second, we are demonstrating love for others above ourselves. All of these commands require self sacrifice and none of us like to do that. However, when we are functioning this way God is glorified and everyone wins. “Things always work better when you do them God’s way” (Tim Parsons).
The rules from our passage today are an outworking of Matthew 22:34-40:
But when the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together. And one of them, a lawyer, asked him a question to test him. “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.”
Questions to Ponder:
Can you ignore these commands for the family and love God? What area’s do you need to grow in?
Posted by: Chad Wiles