January 5, 2016

Today you should read: Genesis 2

Before sin entered the world and our relationships, we see a picture of the perfect marriage. In fact, it’s the passage Jesus referred to when the Pharisees tried to test him by trying to find hypocrisy in his views on marriage and divorce. Jesus goes back to the verses we read today where God outlines the beauty of marriage. We know that people were created for relationships with other people, (specifically for a person of the opposite sex concerning marriage) in v. 20. When God creates woman out of man, he sings poetry to her (v. 23) and God then gives some important truths (and helpful reminders) about marriage in v. 24-25.

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

Three Important Truths About Marriage from this Chapter:

Prepare for marriage by becoming who you want to be as a husband/wife later.

This includes the man leaving his parents (v. 24a) to set himself up to be the protector, provider, leader, sacrificial lover he’s created to be. A lot of men aren’t marriage material because they have never become independent or mature enough in their faith to lead in such a way. That’s why God says the man should leave his first home in order to pursue and hold fast to his future wife and home.

Two People Become One Flesh in Marriage.

You can’t be selfish in marriage because you are not your own anymore. What’s yours is hers and what’s hers is yours. Marriage is when two people become one and illustrate the same covenant we received when saying yes to Christ in our lives. We are one in Him and in marriage we are one with the other, co-partners in life and marriage.

Marriage is freeing.

I can’t stand hearing the jokes about marriage being a prison, the “ol’ ball and chain”, feeling trapped. These jokes and underlying feelings are there because of what happens in the next chapter in Genesis (sin entering through the Fall). If anything, v. 25b shows that marriage is freeing. They lived with each other with freedom and no shame. That’s how marriage should be. Sexual temptation and sin outside of marriage shouldn’t be as prevalent. Jealousy should be taken care of and although we’re imperfect sinners, you’re bonded through a covenant with a perfect Savior in which you can trust that He has given you a partner for life and an intimate love relationship that is flourishing in the freedom that God gives you through marriage.

So if you’re not married, are you taking steps to prepare for it? Are you too selfish to look at your marriage or future marriage as two becoming one? Do you look at marriage or your future marriage as a trap or freeing?

By: Erik Koliser

Author: Center Point Church

A multi-campus church in central Kentucky. Our mission is to take everyone we meet one step closer to becoming a true disciple of Jesus Christ.

23 thoughts on “January 5, 2016”

  1. Great post, Eric – and an awesome reminder about how special marriage truly is. I cringe a little myself whenever I hear marriage talked about like its something to be ‘endured’.

    Also, I’m amazed when I stop and think about how early the topic of marriage comes up in scripture. From the beginning it has been part of his plan to bless us and give us community. We were never meant to be alone!

    Thank you too for your example to the young men and women at CPC of living out a Godly marriage.

  2. I find it interesting that God planted two trees: the tree of life, and the tree of knowledge. Yet Adam was only forbidden from eating of the tree of knowledge. On another note… I’ve read Genesis a hundred times, but somehow missed the fact that God waited until after he created Adam to cause any plants or animals to grow. Specifically, because there was nobody to work the land. Caring for God’s creation was man’s first job, which gives me pause to reflect on how I’m caring for the bits and pieces of God’s creation that I have been entrusted with.

  3. I really enjoyed your post this morning Erik. I like how you pointed out we are one in Him and in marriage we are one with the other, co-partners in life and in marriage. This is how God intended marriage to be. I really am enjoying Jumpstart!

  4. Excellent! This is truly how marriage should be….and is….if we do it God’s way. Though our son is preparing for marriage, in this way, sending this to him today! Great words of wisdom!!

  5. Any time I hear a guy refer to his his wife as the “ole ball and and chain” I immediately decide that anything else they say about relationships or marriage is going in one ear and out the other. There are too many other guys with a healthier and happier attidtude about marriage and their wives and those are the ones I want to talk to. I know guys who have been married for decades and still refer to her as “my bride.”

    Your first point was also spot on. I’ve heard many times that one should cultivate the habits they want to have in marriage well beforehand, because it takes a while for something to become a habit. It’s similar to how athletes train and prepare before game day, so they have good habits when game day comes.

  6. The question was once raised, “Can a man cast off his wife?” This was answered with the question, “Can Christ cast off the church?” In Eph. 5:25-31, we see that the husband is to love his wife with a sacrificial love, a purifying love, a caring love, and an unbeatable love. And the role model for that love is the Lord Jesus Christ Himself.

  7. Touchdown Erik! God has blessed me with nearly 32 years of marriage. The key to joy and happiness is doing marriage God’s way. I’m ashamed to say I spent some of my marriage doing it my way and it did not go well. As our senior pastor loves to say, “Things just go better when we do them God’s way”.

    On another note: Did you notice that God gave instructions to ADAM ALONE to not eaten from the forbidden tree? Eve had not been created yet. Adam was without excuse when he said to God, the woman you gave to me made me do it. The “blame game” started with Adam and men have been playing it ever since. It’s past time for men to Man-Up and lead as God intended!

    1. I realized while reading that God instructed Adam not to eat from the tree before Eve was created, also. Interesting.

  8. Great job Erik! One thought that hit me today – On the seventh day God rested from the work of creation. Why? Certainly as an example to us, but a question came to mind… Did God rest from His work because He was tired – of course not. So…I don’t have to wait till I’m exhausted to collapse from work (and stress), I should rest out of discipline in a regular pattern being obedient to Scripture and the example of my Father.

    1. I’m confident that one day…rest will really sink in with me!! This is such a great point…sometimes I wonder how many times I end up getting sick (physically and/or emotionally) because I’ve failed to rest and take proper care of myself when I was well!!

  9. Good morning CPC! Another great day to read scriptures and be reminded of the precious gift of marriage and rest. Through trial and error and the prodding of the Holy Spirit I am learning how to be the man God called me to be in my marriage and as a parent. I am reminded today that having a godly Christ centered marriage requires commitment and forgiveness and lots of love; the same is true for parenting. One last thought, in your marriage if you have the awesome opportunity to be a parent remember you and your spouse are one and parenting has to be done as one. Shout out to God for giving me an amazing wife Chrissy conley! Have a great day CPC!

  10. Thanks so much for the awesome instruction an marriage this morning, Erik. And I love reading all the comments that pull out other gems from the chapter!!
    Thanks for Jumpstart this morning!

  11. Thanks for the comments everyone and i love the additional commentary with other verses in the chapter. (ex. rest/sabbath). It’s amazing how you can find something new & edifying each & every time you read God’s Word.

  12. I love how jump start not only gets us reading Gods word consistently, but gets us really meditating about we have read. I found my self after reading the chapter, commentary and the comments going back and reading again. I have read Genesis alot of times, but after reading the comments I had to go back and not only read, but really pay attention. Thanks all that take time to make a comment, it makes a difference.

  13. Before coming to CPC I always thought God rested from all of his work…having been going to CPC and truly making an effort, I fully agree it is better to rest first to prepare. This morning was a crazy morning in my house and I feel like once I’m up I need to be go go go….but truly stopping to read JS, I fully rested in God’s word to prepare me for the day. Unfortunately we are constantly being distracted and I found myself running late for work and not being my best. Reminded of what I read this AM, I turned on KLove and listened to “God songs” as my kids call them and focused on His love and His plan.
    Grateful, too, Erik, for your reminders about marriage. I thought about how our perceptions (ball and chain vs. loving partner), our view of our mate can directly influence our attitudes toward them. What a reminder of how God calls us to be more like Him….

  14. Great insights. I never thought about this passage in terms of its relationship to marriage. It is important to remember that just as Eve was given to Adam from God, so is our wife or husband given to us from God. If we view our spouse as a gift from God, how can we not honor them? The fact that you met and married your husband or wife is a “God thing”.The closer you two get to God, the closer you will get to one another. This convicts me. I need to work on this. Too many times I neglect these truths.

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