Before sin entered the world and our relationships, we see a picture of the perfect marriage. In fact, it’s the passage Jesus referred to when the Pharisees tried to test him by trying to find hypocrisy in his views on marriage and divorce. Jesus goes back to the verses we read today where God outlines the beauty of marriage. We know that people were created for relationships with other people, (specifically for a person of the opposite sex concerning marriage) in v. 20. When God creates woman out of man, he sings poetry to her (v. 23) and God then gives some important truths (and helpful reminders) about marriage in v. 24-25.
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
Three Important Truths About Marriage from this Chapter:
Prepare for marriage by becoming who you want to be as a husband/wife later.
This includes the man leaving his parents (v. 24a) to set himself up to be the protector, provider, leader, sacrificial lover he’s created to be. A lot of men aren’t marriage material because they have never become independent or mature enough in their faith to lead in such a way. That’s why God says the man should leave his first home in order to pursue and hold fast to his future wife and home.
Two People Become One Flesh in Marriage.
You can’t be selfish in marriage because you are not your own anymore. What’s yours is hers and what’s hers is yours. Marriage is when two people become one and illustrate the same covenant we received when saying yes to Christ in our lives. We are one in Him and in marriage we are one with the other, co-partners in life and marriage.
Marriage is freeing.
I can’t stand hearing the jokes about marriage being a prison, the “ol’ ball and chain”, feeling trapped. These jokes and underlying feelings are there because of what happens in the next chapter in Genesis (sin entering through the Fall). If anything, v. 25b shows that marriage is freeing. They lived with each other with freedom and no shame. That’s how marriage should be. Sexual temptation and sin outside of marriage shouldn’t be as prevalent. Jealousy should be taken care of and although we’re imperfect sinners, you’re bonded through a covenant with a perfect Savior in which you can trust that He has given you a partner for life and an intimate love relationship that is flourishing in the freedom that God gives you through marriage.
So if you’re not married, are you taking steps to prepare for it? Are you too selfish to look at your marriage or future marriage as two becoming one? Do you look at marriage or your future marriage as a trap or freeing?
By: Erik Koliser