Today you should read: Proverbs 31:10-31
We often play to the level of competition. As an athlete growing up I found myself playing at a much higher level when I was up against someone who was better than me. Likewise, if I was playing against someone who was not as good as me I would play worse. Why? I argue that it is in our nature, as humans, to adapt in order to fit into our environment. Often when in social situations, we may say or do things that we would not ordinarily do in order to fit in and not stand out in the crowd. We call this phenomenon peer pressure. So, what does this have to do with wives?
In v. 30, it speaks about how charm is deceitful and beauty is vain. The more I thought about this verse I thought about what our world expects from women. The world expects a certain body style, a certain look, loose sexuality, and for the women to be in charge of a relationship. (Men this last one is largely due to a lack of leadership on our part). These expectations are pumped into girls at a young age through magazines, movies, and television…just to name a few. Beauty and charm are given as the measuring stick that has deceived the women of our world. This includes Christians who are, in large part, lowering themselves to the same standard.
Physical beauty is fleeting and not something to hope in. It cannot be the definition of who you are as a woman. God offers a different standard that the wife of this passage lives by. Her standard is a fear of the Lord. It is in this standard in which she puts her hope and finds her worth. It is because of her fear of the Lord that she is able to honor her family and to bless her husband through her humble submission.
The character of a wife that fears the Lord according to this passage is kind, loving, diligent, selfless, strong, humble, dignified, and generous just to name a few. Her character becomes like that of her master, Jesus Christ. The reason her husband praises her and is blessed by her is that she is a demonstration and a reminder of Grace. The most calloused heart is melted by the Grace of the cross.
Wives, be a picture of Grace to your husbands. This means that many times you will submit to his leadership even though you are “right.” You do it, not because he deserves it, but because you fear the Lord. Your obedience to this command is an act of worship to God and love to your husband. Rise to the standard of your Savior. “God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8)
Ladies, I want to lovingly challenge you to ask yourself these questions:
• To what standard do I live…God’s standard or to the world’s standard?
• What do I need to change in order to become a women/wife who fears the Lord?
Posted by: Chad Wiles