February 15, 2020

Today you should read: Song of Solomon 6

I will be using Daniel Akin’s Christ-Centered Exposition: Exalting Jesus in Song of Songs to help write this commentary.

Chapter 6 is a great illustration of how both husband and wife play a huge role in maintaining a healthy marriage. The previous chapter talked about reconciliation after a fight. In this chapter, things are going really well and they know that it will require work to keep it that way. Both the man and women give really good examples of how to keep a healthy relationship. They do and say the right things and really connect with each other.

The wife:

She began using her words to complement him at the end of chapter 5, but she begins using her actions to complement what she has already said. 

She studies his actions. She does this not in a creepy kind of stalking way, but instead it is a, “I want to know my husband so that I can be one with him.” She studies him to know him.

She also welcomes his advances. The garden she is referring to is believed to not be a physical garden, but instead a metaphor about their love making. She says, “I am my lover’s and my lover is mine. He browses among the lilies.” She knows that sex is important to her husband and because of that it is also important to her.  She knows this because she studies her husband.

The husband:

The husband responds with words of affirmation. Telling her how beautiful (verse 4), irresistible (verse 5), and special (verses 8-10) she is to him. 

This chapter shows a healthy balance of words and actions that shows how to maintain a healthy marriage. I know this is an area in my life where I need to improve. Sometimes I tell my wife how great she is, but never use actions to show that. Sometimes I do the opposite and do all of these things, but never tell her how beautiful she looks today or how special she is to me.

To singles: Are you lifting up those around you through your words and actions? Are you creating habits of building others up or tearing others down through your words?

To those dating: Are your words uplifting to your partner? Is there a balance of words and actions to show how much you care?

To those who are married: Are you taking the time to study your partner and intentionally creating intimate conversations? Are you balancing your words and actions to show your affection? 

By: Jacob Kerr — West Campus Pastoral Ministry Apprentice: Worship & Students


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February 14, 2020

Today you should read: Song of Solomon 5

Well, I am glad we are talking about Song of Solomon finally, because I have so much marriage advice to give to so many people. I have pretty much figured this marriage thing out in the time that I have been married (3 months).  

In our passage today, it seems as if the woman is having a dream. Notice in verse 2 she says, “I slept, but my heart was awake”. In her dream, her beloved is standing at the door knocking and asking to be let in (v. 2b). She is excited to open the door and see her beloved (v. 3-5), but he is gone when she opens the door (v. 6). She seeks after him and does not find him. Then, the watchmen find her and beat her (v. 7). This dream seems to be more of a nightmare and a response that maybe the woman is afraid of public hostility towards their relationship or she is pursuing someone who might not want her. Then, in verse 9, the “others” ask how the man is compared to others. The woman responds (v. 10-16) with adoration towards the man, thus showing her desire for him. 

A couple of takeaways from this passage: honor your spouse with your words. The woman is in awe of the man and she speaks of him in high honor. For married couples, we need to put our spouse before anyone else in our life. We should be in awe and astonishment of them because of our love for them. And when we do that, we should be praising God for the gift that He has given us. For those who are not yet married, look for someone who adores you as this woman adores the man in verses 10-16. If they admire you like this then they will admire God even more, and that is what you want, someone who loves God first and then you second. 

By: Brice Stockton — Student Ministry Apprentice


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February 13, 2020

Today you should read: Song of Solomon 4

When Pastor Tim mentioned that early Jewish leaders advised young Jews to not read this book until they were at least 30 years old, they must’ve been talking about this chapter right here. After serving with teenagers for well over a decade I can also picture those young Jewish boys getting together at sleepovers in the middle of the night, huddling over the book by candlelight while their parents are sleeping. As mentioned already, there have been two types of interpretation for this book: 

  1. A Pursuit, Engagement & Fulfillment in Marriage of a Covenantal Love Relationship as intended by God for man and woman. 
  2. A Metaphor or Picture of Jesus’ love for His Church, the Bride. 

Although I can accept a view of both in some ways, I have some real uncomfortableness reading chapter 4, where Solomon talks about his bride’s breasts as a picture of Jesus and the church. So with that said, we should read, at least this chapter, knowing that there is good romance and sex within a good, Christ-centered marriage. These things within a marriage are a gift from God and wouldn’t be included in God’s Word if it wasn’t a gift. 

However with that being said, before one gets to enjoy such a gift within marriage, one must be ultra careful with how they treat their girlfriend or boyfriend before getting married in such areas as well. For example, look at how Solomon refers to his soon to be bride in verses 9, 10 and 12. He calls her his SISTER first, then BRIDE. 

One time when teaching through this book, an unchurched person asked if this was justifying incest. I told them no, it was justifying how a man should treat his girlfriend and fiancé and overall view his wife first and foremost, as a sister in Christ. His wife is a sister in Christ first and foremost. They will not take that covenantal marriage into heaven but will be church family forever eternally. This view would help with not only sexual temptations before marriage but, an overall view and true purpose of marriage as you prioritize your faith over all other things. Now, of course, as this book has made abundantly clear, there are some pretty great physical and emotional benefits you have within the earthly marriage as husband and wife. But know that you’re bonded in Christ, adopted as His family first.

By: Erik Koliser — West Campus Pastor


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February 12, 2020

Today you should read: Song of Solomon 3

Today we are going to be focusing on verses 1-5 of chapter 3. Chapter 3 opens with what many scholars say is a dream. It is a dream that reveals the woman’s strong desire for her future husband.

I sought him whom my soul loves;
    I sought him, but found him not.
 I will rise now and go about the city,
    in the streets and in the squares;
I will seek him whom my soul loves.
    I sought him, but found him not. (v. 1-2, ESV)

In her dream she goes on to find him and takes him to an intimate location. And then verse 5 seems to be an aside to the women she is talking with that serves as a warning:

I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
    by the gazelles or the does of the field,
that you not stir up or awaken love
    until it pleases. (ESV)

This verse, perhaps spoken from experience or simply from wise people around her, is advocating for the purity of heart and mind that should be pursued in a dating relationship. This verse has implications for all people however, because everyone is accountable to be submissive to God’s design for sexuality, whether you are married or not.

  • To singles, are you treating relationships with an appropriate amount of caution? Are you planning even now about how you will keep yourself pure if/when God brings someone you are pursuing a dating/future marriage relationship with into your life?
  • To those dating, what are you doing to guard yourself from sexual temptation in your relationship? Do you have purity guidelines that you and your partner have set, and do you have an older, more mature couple to keep you accountable to it?
  • To those who are married, are you seeking sexual fulfillment through your spouse and your spouse alone? Who do you have to keep you accountable so that you do not allow something like an affair or secret sexual sin to lead you astray from God’s design?

 By: Graham Withers — Pastoral Ministry Associate


God is honored when we intentionally seek Him in prayer. As a church, we want dependent prayer to be something that marks us. Use the comment section to post prayer requests and experiences of how God has answered prayer and/or changed you through prayer! If you would like to be enrolled to get weekly prayer reminders, text @cpclex to 81010.